How Commitment Works for Men: 8 Significant Ways Men Start To Feel Committed To Their Relationships
Have you been dating a man but feel it’s got a phobia to commitment? If you’ve been dating for some time and still the relationship is stuck on neutral? Have you been dating a man and wondered why the topic of commitment hasn’t even come up?
Regardless of what you think, it’s on them… not you!
There are some secrets you can unlock when it comes to the commitment-phobe. And, by knowing them, you can be sure your relationship can go to the next level.
One of the most important factors in any relationship is attraction. It’s not just about your size but also how you present yourself. How healthy are you? Do you constantly try to look your best so he’ll want to be with you?
Believe it or not, men are always thinking about that next step, and like you, he’s thinking about the future with you and what your kids would look like. How you present yourself is a man’s first clue into whether or not he should make a commitment.
You’re Easy To Be Around
If a man feels easy to be around you, he’s more likely to want to get into a committed relationship with you. If you don’t bring up drama or pressure him, he’ll want to be around you as often as possible. It’s really no different than how you pick your best friends to hang around with. It’s easy to be with these folks – to be who you are, which is why you stick with them. When he feels that way about you, he’s sure to want to continue it.
He Feels Wonderful Whenever You’re Around
Do you love getting compliments? Well, he does too! A man who feels appreciated and loved will want to be around you more often. A man who doesn’t feel like this will likely step out of the relationship and cheat. Men’s egos are rather fragile, and if a man doesn’t get the appreciation they’re looking for, they’ll find someone who will. Keep the ego up and they’re going to want to stay around.
He’s Able To Make His Woman Happy
A man’s job is to please a woman – regardless of their societal level. It increases the ego and give them some sense of achievement when their woman is happy because of them. If you’re constantly complaining about things, he’s not going to want to make a commitment. He’ll feel like nothing he does is good enough. If your man knows that he’s making you happy, he’ll want to commit to the relationship.
You’re Not Like Other Women
A man who wants to make a commitment won’t use lines to get her into bed. Instead, he wants a woman that can’t easily be swayed. Men who propose often tell their friends and others that his lady wasn’t like others he had dated – that she’s unique and different, and that there’s nobody in the world like her. Men see quality when a woman create an air of mystery and doesn’t play mind games.
She Doesn’t Mind Sharing Her Feelings With You
Women are emotionally creatures, and they like to discuss their feelings. Men have feelings too, but often times don’t discuss them. But, when they do, it’s usually because a woman has decided that she’s interested in sharing hers without hesitation or pressure. It’s similar to the fear of asking a woman out for the first time. If he feels you’ll say no, he’s liable not to ask you out. Commitment is the same way. If you play hard to get, he’s going to find someone who isn’t into mind games and will share her feelings.
She Won’t Try Convincing Him To Make A Commitment
A talk about a commitment is never going to take the relationship to another level. Instead, they move into the new level due to the factors listed above. As a relationship progresses, a woman has made the man feel special; someone he doesn’t want to lose from his life. And, just because you talk about the commitment doesn’t mean it’ll happen.
One Final Note:
Commitment is different for every man. However, it’s important to note that humans are a lot alike when it comes to the above mentioned things. What makes people feel good makes them want to go back to it. And, things that make us feel bad makes us want to get away from it.
Talk with those who fear commitment and they’ll tell you they really are not afraid of commitment. After all, it’s only human to want to be with a person who makes you feel good. The fear is being with the wrong person. If you’re going to get a man to commit to you, it’s not about “the talk” or the special nights out. It’s about developing a relationship that makes him want to be around you more and more often – to be with you for the rest of his life.
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