When it comes to dating, many of us have a certain expectation – that if we’re genuine, kind, and genuine, someone will reciprocate our feelings. However, the reality is that dating is not fair, and this expectation can lead to frustration, disappointment, and heartache.
I recently had a conversation with my friend Crystal, who has been struggling to find a meaningful connection. Despite her many positive qualities – being attractive, having a great job, and being fun to be around – she can’t seem to land a guy. As we talked about her situation, I realized that she expects dating to be fair. She believes that if she puts in the effort, she’ll get out of it what she wants – a fulfilling relationship.
Unfortunately, this expectation is rooted in a misconception that life is fair. However, research has shown that people who believe life is fair tend to experience lower self-esteem, engage in riskier behaviors, and have a reduced willingness to follow directions. This attitude can lead to negative thinking patterns and poor decision-making.
The truth is that life and dating are not fair. We can’t control how others react or respond to us. What we can control is how we approach dating and relationships. To rise above the unfairness of dating, we need to commit to three things:
1. Protect your heart: Take care of yourself and don’t rush into relationships. Allow time for new connections to develop naturally.
2. Refuse to play dirty: Avoid engaging in manipulative or toxic behaviors to get what you want. Instead, focus on building genuine connections with others.
3. Don’t lose hope: It’s okay to feel frustrated when things don’t go as planned, but don’t give up on love altogether.
It’s essential to remember that you are amazing and deserving of love just as much as anyone else. Keep being your best self, and keep hoping for what you truly want. Dating may not be fair, but it’s worth waiting for something real and fulfilling.
Remember, protecting your heart, refusing to play dirty, and holding onto hope will increase your chances of finding meaningful love. Don’t let the illusion of fairness dictate your dating life – take control and focus on building genuine connections with others.
